You’re A Man, Honey, and That’s Okay
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Male Violence is The Enemy
Hey, guys, I get it. As much as any lady can, I sympathize. Being A Man is a big freaking deal. Men are kinda nuts.
And the way they are mythologized creates an impossible standard!
Forced Into the Butch Box
If you are just not much of a hard ass, if you find yourself drawn to the lighter side of life, you may also find yourself targeted by the Man Police. They are regular guys, your friends, your boss, your teacher. Your Dad. Any or all of them may take it upon themselves to kick your ass if you step out of line.
I’m not going to dig into why that happens. It’s pretty foreign to me, and I truly don’t mean to patronize you.
But this stuff is directly concerning to me because there are men of all ages who I love dearly. They are deeply affected by these things.
One of my oldest friends is a poet and an artist. He is also a hard motherfucker who is covered in tattoos and recovering from heroin addiction. Because of experiences he has referenced but never really told me about.
My husband is barely on speaking terms with his father, who had a habit of humiliating him in front of the old man’s friends for giggles.
My own father has never been able to maintain normal relationships with women. He has apparently wandered off into some scary corner of sexual sadism and I really don’t even want to know about it.
I have two sons and I take my responsibility to them very seriously. Who better to teach them that women are people? I actually get pretty upset sometimes when I see things written by lonely men who are frustrated by their lack of connection with women.
The Root of Misunderstanding
Patriarchy creates a world where a heart is a liability!
They don’t understand that the question, “How do I relate to women?” is the basis of the problem.
You relate to a woman based on what you can observe about who she is as a person.
Women are people, with every personality configuration imaginable. Just like you.
You are also complex and that’s okay. Men are capable of some amazing things, that is undeniable. Being one of the good ones begins with approaching yourself and the rest of humanity with the understanding that we are all people first.
Be Yourself, Darling!
If you feel like you are most feminine person on this green Earth, you do you. I support you in throwing away all that toxic, judgemental garbage that has been polluting masculinity forever. Being A Man has nothing to do with what you wear and everything to do with how you behave.
Be a thoughtful, respectful person. It’s really very simple. Go about your business.
If you find yourself with some leftover passion, join us in trying to stop male violence.
Feminists don’t kill transwomen!
Male violence is what kills transwomen. Feminist activists don’t kill people. Insecure, homophobic men kill people.
Male violence is everything from domestic abuse to mass shootings to war. It is the locker room bully. It is all those ironic motherfuckers who visited me this week and told me their suggested method for my death.
Lead the Revolution!
Male violence is the enemy of us all. Female, male, trans, all classes and races. It is caused by the isolation integral to toxic masculinity.
You could be the front lines of dismantling the system that you so clearly hate. Be A Man. On your terms. Don’t let them take that from you.
Regarding Being A Woman
I am tired of debating who is a woman or what a woman is. That is a stupid waste of everyone’s time – We all know what we are talking about. To suggest that people are going around confused about the biological and potential reproductive nature of anyone’s body is absurd and I am not going to engage with that any more.
Be the femmiest man you can dream of. I will support you and cheer for you.
You are not a woman, honey, and that’s okay. Men can do great things. Go normalize your truth and fuck gender labels.
Love & Hugs,
– Sarah
AMEN! Being a man has nothing to do with not crying and crushing beer cans on your head while wearing anything but pink, just like being a woman doesn't equal making sandwiches and reproducing while applying a full face of makeup! If more men could accept this idea, what a wonderful world it would be.
Ah, true, what a beautiful dream! Seems like for every step we take towards that, we take 2 steps back. I’ve been up to my eyeballs in sexual stereotypes masquerading as activism lately, and this one got quite a reception 😈
Lovely. As always. PS I am having a hard time with all of the male this male that. My teenage son is showing some behaviour toward his sister that used to be called 'just kids being kids' or 'boys being boys' and she fiercely defends herself and could, if she wanted to, out-run him or kick his ass (he's 14, she's 11) but because of what the world has come to (metoo, etc) his every move is scrutinized. I have to stop myself every time they interact. Is it sibling love/hate? Is it normal? Is it the birth of something bad? Is it a boy being toxic? Is it her taking advantage of him? (Because face it, she's got it in her to be a shit disturber too).It's all just so confusing. And I hate it. All of it. Why can't we just all get along?