It’s amazing how difficult it is to talk about women’s issues.
Today I was outed as a “TERF.”
For those uninitiated, that’s Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminist.
Which is technically true, I suppose. In that I understand that the only thing that makes a person one sex or the other is their anatomy. The rest is all gravy.
Trans Politics Dwell in Hyperbole
I have resisted getting directly involved in the conversation for two reasons:
- My focus is women. Not what makes someone a woman or men who want to be women.
- I have more important things to do than deal with trans rights activists who are not going to listen to a damn thing I say.
I already lost one old friend over this. A friend who started life as a girl and now lives as a man. Someone who I knew years ago and care for deeply.
Someone who wouldn’t listen when I said that I do understand.
I thought of myself as a man in a woman’s body for 15 years. I mentioned this before, but it bears repeating because every time it comes out that I disagree with trans identity politics, people assume I don’t understand.
Or that I was never “really” trans.
Yeah, and no true Scotsman could be a sex maniac.
Because I disagree, they try to write me off. Because disagreement isn’t allowed.
Which tells you everything you need to know, really.
What Are We Even Arguing About?
It’s not possible to “be a woman inside” because the only thing that makes anyone a woman is her outsides. The “science” they cite is all small, cherry-picked studies. It reminds me of how Rene’ Descartes declared the pineal gland the seat of the soul.
He’s the one we have to thank for this whole body-soul separation thing in modern philosophy, by the way. Thanks, Rene’.
And do I need to remind you that “lady brain” has been used to treat women like children for ages??
Not to mention, if you’ve never been something, you’re only imagining what it’s like.
If being trans is totally valid, why transition? If transwomen “are women” then what are they transitioning to?? Why go through hormones or surgery? Why worry about “passing?” Normalize presenting somewhere between the accepted categories! Please, for the love of god! Little gay boys and girls everywhere will thank you.
Not to mention the bald-faced irony of trans women wanting into women’s spaces as safe havens from men…. while ridding us of safe havens from men!
Your body is not female just because you say it is.
You can be the most effeminate guy around, you may very well be more “ladylike” than me. But you are a man, honey.
Yes, I received several braindead replies saying that transwomen have female bodies.
None of them were able to tell me what ‘female’ means. Woman = female = woman is not a definition, it’s a thought loop.
I was having a lot of fun for the first few hours. But eventually I got tired. I told someone that they knew perfectly well what ‘female’ meant and that the argument was dumb.
They did not respond to that.
This Isn’t About You
You may have noticed that my original post above doesn’t mention trans anything.
I never said trans people aren’t people. Or that they are not deserving of human rights.
I said what women are. And what I believe motivates anyone who says differently.
And lots of people took that very personally.
Trans women are men. Anyone with an identity integration issue that messes with them that bad needs help, not hormones.
But compassion is only allowed one shape. Only “affirming.” Independent thought is discouraged. I came to the wrong conclusions so I must not understand.
And it’s their business to make me understand.
Actually, this is the weirdest part to me.
I do not know most of the people I argued with today. Come to find out through a third party, they were sent my way by my sister. Who told me to leave her alone but doesn’t feel the need to return the favor.
Why they felt compelled to Set Her Straight I can only speculate.
But it sure doesn’t come across as security in their convictions.
And, anyway, how self-absorbed is it to insist that everyone around you play along with your denial of physical reality? Or you will threaten them. Or shout at them. Or sue them (and call 911 when they ask you about it.)
And yes, this is about transwomen, really. Literally the only person who spoke up for transmen was my old friend.
But I was told how “transwomen are women” by over half a dozen uninvited guests.
Transwomen are Not Our Allies
But the reason I have a problem, the reason I care to begin with
Is because transwomen are not allies to women.
They don’t care about abortion access except to insist healthcare providers call us “uterus-bearers.” They don’t care about rape survivors being traumatized by the male form. They don’t care about women in third world countries. Or the ongoing plague of female feticide.
There’s only one type of person who might get pregnant. And we have been oppressed for millennia because of it.
And trans women don’t care about that. They don’t see that. They see us having feelings and wearing dresses and call that “freedom” because it’s what they want to do.
So do it!
You have a sex and a personality. One doesn’t have to determine the other.
That’s really all I wanted to say.